So I tell my wife this morning, “We’re going to co-author a book together.” Then she says, “Not today honey, I’ve got a headache.” LOL… Her quick wit is one of the many things that keeps me coming back for more. After 18 years of courtship and marriage we still manage to make it work.
I met a new acquaintance at a Christmas Party a few days ago that expressed to me a concern about authors and therapist. She asked the question, “Is it true that their relationships really are as good as they make them out to be?” After a couple of seconds of thought, I simple told her that I can’t speak for all however I can speak for me and my wife.
I told her that we look at marriage like a sport, and when playing a sport you need to know the rules and follow them. Also as with any sport you have to practice at it so that you get better and better and understand that struggles and troubles are just part of the process of growth. She smiled and nodded her head in affirmation as she said, “That’s a great way to look at it.”
I’m convinced that in marriage and relationships you’re either getting better or worse, there’s no third direction. Being intentional with ones actions in the right direction rules the day.
My wife and I are living proof that fire and ice can not only survive together, but thrive together. Karen Ice is her name and her twenty-plus year profession as a licensed therapist at times require for her to be stoic and cold as “ice” in her response to traumatic and tense situations, while on the other hand, my profession requires for me to model that energetic, charismatic, inspirational, motivational leader that others what to follow and learn from.
Behind closed doors those two ancient elements of the universe, fire and ice, are tasked with tolerance and temperament. Are we perfect? Not by a looooong shot, but that’s what makes it a relationship. Yes, the laws of marital physics also work in our household as we too have our fair share of troubles and struggles with those common things like, finances, children, emotions, wants and needs.
The formula that not only keeps us together, but keeps us smiling is not a one-size-fits-all. It’s not even a one-size-fits-most. It’s a one-size-fits-us and we invite you to take a peek at some of the tools and techniques that appear to work best.
The topic of couples staying together and thriving has come up over-and-over again and we can no longer ignore it or sweep it under the rug. If something we say can brighten someone’s day and push a relationship in the right way, then why would we keep quiet?
Stay tuned because it’s coming soon… A Blog Post and a first of it’s kind, one-of-a-kind book touching and tackling even the tough topics like Sex, Love and Cinnamon Rolls just to name a few, is coming to you. The Couples Corner
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